Inner Child Work & PTSD

Who you are today your strengths, problems, level of selfesteem, habits is in large part a product of your development. At each age, from birth to toddler to child to adolescent, you were met with certain typical challenges. If your caregivers raised you in a natural way that allowed you to healthily traverse each stage and master the skills necessary to progress, you most likely ended up a wellbalanced, confident individual with a strong sense of yourself.

However, at each stage, there are countless traumas, big and small, that can occur and keep you from resolving the issues of that stage. Unresolved issues stay with us throughout our lives, expressing themselves in our relationships with ourselves and others. If you have a pattern of unhealthy relationships, low selfesteem, addictions or other problems, you may well be experiencing the results of unresolved issues from these childhood and adolescent stages and you might be able to benefit from inner child work.

Inner child work can be an extremely therapeutic and valuable part of the recovery process. The residual effects of your past often times influences your current patterns, beliefs and behaviours, making inner child work an important part of yourself to explore during therapy.

If you react strongly to an interaction with someone, it is usually a sign that an old issue has been triggered. If as a child you were told you never did anything right, then as an adult, when that message is inferred, it will bring up the pain of the past. If in your current relationship you find yourself forever haunted with the fear that your partner will leave you, you may be reacting to an old experience where one of your parents left the other or left you. In other words, if you’ve been hurt in a similar way before, the hurt from the past as well as the present will emerge. If you find that no matter what you do you have a recurring reaction to a specific issue, it is most likely related to your childhood.

Through inner child work we can explore these experiences in a safe and secure environment, which can help you come to terms with the influence that they have had in your life. We can work to develop a strong and trusting therapeutic relationship in which you can feel secure in knowing that our sessions come without judgement and discrimination. By reestablishing a healthy connection with your inner child, we can work together on combating the behaviours, addictions, thoughts and emotions that are triggered by your past experiences. By relearning how to connect with your inner child, you can make strides towards a successful recovery. Together we can work towards change and creating the life that you want to live.

Trauma & Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

We all experience traumatic or frightening situations at some point in our life, however these distressing thoughts or anxious feelings usually dissipate over time. If, however, you continue to feel nervous or ‘on edge’ all the time, or have trouble concentrating, have feelings of irritability or difficulty sleeping, then you are suffering the long terms effects of trauma, known as Posttraumatic stress disorder, PTSD.

Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a severe anxiety disorder. PTSD can develop after exposure to an event that results in trauma either physically and/or mentally. You may experience flashbacks, hallucinations or nightmares due to the trauma that you suffered. You may also have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep. Outbursts of unpredictable and acute episodes of anger are also another symptom of PTSD. These symptoms have a severe impact on your day to day functioning and can have long term consequences if not dealt with.

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Many people feel a lot of guilt or shame around PTSD because they are often told that they ‘should just get over it’. Others may feel embarrassed or feel shame talking about it. Some people may even feel like it’s somehow their own fault.

Trauma is hurtful. If you experience problems in your life related to trauma, it’s important to take your feelings seriously. It is important to learn how to rebuild trust and relationships after such an event.

Trauma is not always a single event in the past. Some trauma, particularly repeated acts like sexual or physical abuse, or trauma during wartime, can impact a person’s life far beyond the symptoms of PTSD. Some use other terms like ‘complex PTSD’ to describe these experiences.

Because people will often experience a change in their thoughts and mood related to the traumatic event, they may turn to unhealthy coping behaviours, such as sexual favours or alcohol or drugs as a way to cope with PTSD.

If you, or a loved one’s PTSD is affecting other family members, it is very helpful to seek therapy. With the right support, you can recover from PTSD and the effects of trauma. Recovery is good for the entire family, especially for younger people who are still learning how to interact with the world. A loved one’s recovery is a chance for everyone to learn the skills that support wellness.

I will be there to nurture and support growth in all areas while we work through your trauma and/or PTSD symptoms. Together we can create a safe environment and relationship so that you can feel confident in sharing. We will work together on moving past your trauma, and get you looking towards the future with hope instead of fear.

If you are considering working with a Coach or Therapist, please feel free to contact me.

Free Initial Consultation: I would love to talk with you, get a sense of what you want to achieve through our work together, give you an experience of how it works, and answer any questions you might have. Then you can decide if this approach is right for you. Free Initial 20 minute phone consultation.